What to write about ...

I could write about the latest instalment in the Intuition v Paranoia saga but sometimes I think I give the whole thing too much thinking time .. by doing this I actually give it/her/them a place of importance which I shouldn't...

I could write about the next "hot" topic in my life which is C1 and his schooling or lack of interest in it but again, don't feel much like writing all about that now .. would take forever.

So what to write about ... I found a friend I haven't seen in years on facebook recently - it was so lovely to briefly catch up with her over a couple of emails but last night I was on facebook and she popped up for a chat - as she's a lovely person to talk to I was happy to chat - what followed was her recounting about her marriage and how difficult it can be and how her marriage is not a place she wants to be any more - it was a very sad conversation and my heart went out to her, her description of her life was so similar to mine before the inevitable separation, that I had outpourings of empathy for her. Have you ever have a situation like that where you just wish you could go to the person rather than type them meaningful words, sometimes a hug, a held hand, a look, can convey so much more? ... that's what I wanted to do for her last night but she's too far away (a plane journey) so not feasible. She did say something that I learnt only too well though my own experience:

She said she realised now that love doesn't take you through a lifetime together, its friendship, shared common interests, and if you don't have that you'll never get there

My thoughts - if you can't be friends with your loved one, then you have nothing. My advice to anyone reading this is let friendship be the foundation of any loving relationship, treat your loved one as you would your friends, with the same amount of respect and consideration, its so easy in a marriage/long term relationship to forget about "consideration" and take it all for granted and rarely would we do that to a friend.

Kahlil Gibran writes beautiful verses about Love and Friendship. Worth a read if anyone has the time.